First Date Questions: Conversation Topics

First dates can be confusing and exciting at the same time! They can also be sad for some men and women. We can't help but worry that things will go wrong, that we will say something silly and that our date will simply dislike us.

It's all too easy to lose yourself and come across as a shy and awkward person during the first date. I recommend having a list of great first date questions to ask which can help you break the ice and be more sure in yourself and confident.

The idea is to ask open ended questions that trigger ideas and thoughts. Women and men like to be challenged and they enjoy the chase especially during dating and relationships. They want to date someone on the same level or somewhat even higher than them. Asking them what their ideal holiday is will reveal what type of person they are and if you are compatible with them.

By simply asking the following first date question, "If you had the power to change something about you, what would you change?" allows you to measure a person's self-confidence and modesty. It can be nice to hear someone note their slight or big faults and flaws. I have to warn you though, it can be a real pain to hear a list of flaws from a nagging person who never stops talking.

You don't want to start dating troubled people just because you feel sorry for them or because they are trying to win you over this way.

What other first date questions you may ask? "What are you looking for in another person?" Here you can see if you are actually that someone that your date is looking for.

If you want to party and go out all the time to meet other potential dates and the other person wants to get pregnant and have a child then you may want to stop dating this person! If you follow this guideline, you will save yourself any problems down the track if the relationship was to continue.

You must also remember that first dates are not job interviews. While you should try and get to know more about the other person, you should not be grilling them and asking them 100 questions.

Remember to use humour and keep the conversation light and easy. Right after you asked a serious question, ask "Now, the most important question, what ice cream flavour do you like the most?" Smile here and go grab some if you want to.

The idea is to have fun while talking to each other. You do not want to make the first date, your last date, especially if you like your date.

Also by being funny and flirty, you will find out more about the other person's sense of humour and character traits.

Are they dry and too serious or are they funny and socially savvy?

Asking something like, "when did you first get drunk?" allows you both to giggle and have fun. It also shows the other person your personality and sense of adventure.

The idea is to read your date's body language and verbal responses. Are they enjoying the conversation? If yes, then keep at it.

If they appear to be upset, bored or shy, perhaps changing to another first date question or a conversation topic is a better way to go.

If you think that every move you make is being closely watched and criticised, please remember that your date feels probably the same way. This is why it is great to have these first date questions handy.

Have fun during your first date, don't just listen to what the girl or a guy says, pay attention to it. Quiet often that is all you need to do in order to have a smooth conversation where you both connect.

And if this date does not work out, remember, there is always another woman waiting for you.

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